The NICU life

The NICU life

Life is a cycle, and november since to be where I start a new cycle every few years or so. November 2003 was when I stopped smoking change my thoughts and pursue a new life. November 2007 is when I left a job royal caribbean (long story). I left cape canaveral with 2 bags and 1 credit card with $1000 full of doubts but once again changed my thoughts and purse a new life, after  a few ups and downs I rebuilt myself. November it’s also 2 of my best Ironman races, where I feel I hit new levels. Some of those phases were really hard and scary, with stuff that I don’t even want to remember.

This november it feels that is another transition time. After we spent 84 days in the NICU at Joe Dimaggio Childrens Hospital, I once again started to think and view life in a different way. A way and a side that you might have never seen on me before, but I always had.

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The nicu life is a roller coaster of emotions, it is very scary to see your sons life in  your hands. The first 3 days when Luke was born, I was at shock. I mean, to see your son with a heart rate on 60 to 80 bpm, when at this age they usually is in about 160, it’s scary. To not hear him cry or move just add more fire to the gasoline tank. For the first time, I was forced to deal with my emotions day by day, I could not numb myself like before otherwise the mess would be even bigger. Man in general try to hide those emotions by numbing them in a way to show strength, I did it for many years, but I was not always like that as a kid, I used exposed my emotions a lot (my friends when I was young used to sing to me “boys don’t cry” from the cure), over time I thought that I had to be strong I numbed myself.

The nicu life made me acknowledge this once again and face my emotions. Countless times I freaked out, cried,  I panic… I started to notice that numbing the emotions won’t help and once again I changed my thoughts and I decided to let it go, maybe that is why I am writing this.

 life force. I was always a big in the universe and its powers. The life force in every baby is really really strong. The strength that babies do to live is something unbelievable and beautiful to see. It is the most powerful force, in my view. With that in mind and in order to help Luke I am studying reiki. Luke have done reiki weekly at the nicu with some wonderful nurses that are also reiki masters. Luke respond to reiki really well. I did reiki myself plenty of times, and I just love it! This november, again, is starting a new cycle in my life. A cycle a little bit more spiritual, as well as adding new things to my curriculum such as life coaching (I believe with my experiences I can help others as well).

 

Life is full of cycles, and looks like november is the month for me and one thing I can say, don’t be afraid of expressing your emotions, it won’t make you weaker, in fact will make you stronger, and trust the life force and never ever give up, you are stronger than you think!

Feel Good,

Rich Wygand

 

Life is just like an endurance race

Life is just like an endurance race

You know I always heard and read life is right here right now. It’s true, but I always found hard to do it, until Luke came along.

Lately I found out that every time I start looking at the future I start to “freak out a bit”. For example I start thinking how is going to be Luke’s future, how it will be school, how it will be his life etc etc etc…. that just start to build up my stress and anxiety. So when that happen I just take a deep breath and think: Life is right here right now, what can I do now? I usually immediately feel better.

Applying what I learned in sports

With years of endurance training and racing long distance I learned how to deal with the unexpected, and for that you must be in the now, because the problem needs to dealt with in that moment. When I coach my athletes, I often teach to deal with certain situations, of course we try to minimize those situations. In life is no difference in order to perform we must stay in the now, and deal with the unexpected.

The other good lesson that I learned from sports that I am applying in my life now is simple and I call: The human performance measure machine. As an athlete and coach people often asked me about, GPS, Power meter, all those machines that measure effort/performance etc… Those machines are great, but nobody invented a machine that can measure the capacity of the human, so in the end, all those things are just a number, they are good tools but in the end you must trust your feelings, they are a lot more accurate than any machine (as long as you are in tune). We are one of the most perfect and powerful machine, and there is no way that it can be measured, until today humans have been surprising lots and lots of people with some out of this world performance (not talking about sports here because of doping), therefore when someone says Luke won’t do this or that, our answer is simple: Luke will decide! Because once Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can or you can’t you are right”

When I look, or think about Luke, I am now keeping my focus and thoughts like this: What can I do now for him, and now is the magic point where you can change things. What you do or don’t do now can affect your future, and that is the only moment you can change, cause the past is past and the future, well, it’s not here yet. All you can do is now!

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Feel Good,

Rich

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